Job Opportunities

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If you’re a citizen or a permanent resident and if looking for a career change that is both challenging and fulfilling, join Singapore’s leading independent, non-government organisation of HIV experts.

AFA dedicates it’s mission to fighting AIDS/HIV infection in Singapore. It draws upon a network of healthcare professionals, advocates, educators and volunteers, to implement educational, testing, treatment and welfare programmes.

We will not be able to achieve our mission from individuals. It takes an entire team united behind something big.

Together, we are Doing it Better.

Job Scope and Description

MSM Programme Coordinator (Full Time)

The Employee’s scope of work shall be as follows:

  • Help recruit and train volunteers.
  • Outreach at Saunas, Bars/Clubs, and smartphone apps/social network sites to all MSM community on HIV/AIDS/STIs and to promote testing.
  • Assist with HIV/STIs and Harm reduction workshops
  • Provide social gatherings and partner agencies targeting youth under 29 years old
  • Maintain lithium-carbonate.online website with relevant articles and keep statistical analysis for report
  • Gather knowledge (e.g Public Health, surveys) and evidence (research, analysis) to support programme development, planning and implementation.
  • Provide weekly support for Pink Carpet Service (ATS) to the MSM community
  • Continue to build working relationship with partner agencies and stakeholders
  • Assist the MSM Programme Manager to deliver campaign deliverables
  • Assist AFA/MSM Programme organise World AIDS Day (WAD) event to increase awareness of HIV/AIDS

(II) Working Hours:

The working hours will be Monday to Friday, from 0900 to 1800 hours and occasionally on weekends and/or on project and events basis.

(III) Rights and Obligations of the Employee:

The rights and obligations of the Contract Employee are strictly in accordance to the terms and conditions of this Employment Contract Agreement. Where applicable and accordingly, the employee shall be entitled to all rights, benefits, AWS and CPF Payout as expressly provided in the Employee Handbook. The Contract Employee is entitled to 18 days of annual leave and 14 days of sick leave per year. If any provisions of the Employee’s Handbook at any time of conflicts with any two provisions of this Agreement, the provisions of this Agreement shall prevail and supersede the provisions of the Employee’s Handbook.

(IV) Settlement of Dispute:

The Employment Contract Agreement shall be governed by and construed in accordance with the laws of Republic of Singapore. Unless agreed otherwise, all disputes arising in any way out of affecting this Supplementary Agreement shall be subject to the exclusion jurisdiction of the courts of the Republic of Singapore to which the parties hereto agree irrevocably to summit.

(V) Termination:

During the probation period, both parties can terminate this contract by giving one week’s written notice to the other party. After confirmation of employment, both parties can terminate the contract by giving one month’s written notice to the other party.

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All job applicants would be deemed to have given full consent to the collection, use or disclosure of personal data as a condition of pre-employment, under Personal Data Protection Act. Job applications received after the closing date will be removed and deleted from AfA’s databases.

Getting Hard, Getting Off

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Guys don’t always get hard or stay hard. Guys don’t always get off. But pleasure can be more than a hard dick or a cumshot!

Trouble getting or keeping an erection can be caused by a whole range of factors: physical, mental, and more.

Sometimes guys have erectile difficulties when they use a condom, which can prevent them from using it, or cause them anxiety when they use one.

For older guys, they might think erectile difficulties are just an inevitable part of aging, but it doesn’t have to be. Erectile difficulties can affect men of all ages and aren’t necessarily related to age.

However, a few tactics may help to understand how severe the issue is. For example, a person suffering from erectile difficulties can try getting aroused by watching porn or using a real life sex doll (which can be available in various genders including male, female, shemale, etc.). It can help them to properly analyze the problem and convey it to a medical professional.

In addition, here are some tips to get hard and stay hard:

  • Try foreplay, dirty talk and porn.
  • Take your time and don’t hurry.
  • Try different positions to see what gets you off and avoids discomfort.
  • Use a lubricant. Silicone-based lubricants don’t dry up as quickly as water-based lubricants, which can help reduce anxiety about taking too long to get off. Experiment with different kinds on your own, to see what types of lube you prefer. Oil-based lubes make condoms break.
  • Use a cock ring. They come in a variety of materials and you can find them in an online sex shop. Choose ones that don’t fit too tight when you are hard, and are easy to remove. Many guys use them. They will enhance your orgasm, as well as your erection.
  • Try sex in the morning, or at another time when you might be more relaxed or horny.
  • Too much alcohol or drugs before sex can make it difficult to get hard and stay hard…
  • Look into the side effects of medications you’re taking, but don’t stop taking medications without consulting your health care provider.
  • Believe it or not – getting hard after eating a heavy meal is not easy for many guys.

Talk to your doctor if none of these strategies work. Erectile difficulties could be a symptom of a bigger health issue, or a medical issue on their own. Erectile drugs, including orals and injectables, are an option, but aren’t a magic bullet for everyone. On the other hand, many guys are able to use a condom with erectile drugs that otherwise wouldn’t and they report that they appreciate the freedom and anxiety from having to worry about staying hard. Know the side effects of gastrointestinal-medications.online and what you shouldn’t mix them with.

You don’t need to get hard to get or give sexual pleasure. Try other kinds of sex play that don’t require you penetrating your partner with a cock, like:

  • Oral sex, mutual masturbation, etc.
  • Dildos, strap-ons, and cock sheaths.
  • Fisting
  • Sensual massage
  • Try bottoming. (If you’re trying to be a bottom for the first time, read the section on Guys on Top.)

For more support and ideas, talk to other guys, check out resources and workshops on sexual pleasure, as well as trusted sex shops.

Source: Thesexyouwant

Action for AIDS – MSM Programme

Address: 9 Kelantan Lane #03-01
Singapore 208628Tel : (65) 6254 0212Fax :(65) 6256 5903
Email : daniel.le@afa.org.sg , avin.tan@afa.org.sg, alex.tan@afa.org.sg

“Guys On Top Don’t Get HIV… Right?”

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We’ve all heard that ‘tops’ are less likely to get HIV than ‘bottoms’. Sometimes guys will be on top during anal sex (or frontal sex with trans guys) in order to reduce their risk of getting HIV. When guys with different HIV statuses have unprotected anal or frontal sex, sometimes the negative guy will top the poz guy to reduce the risk of transmission.

 

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This is called ‘strategic positioning’, and is based on the fact that it’s easier for HIV to get into the body through the ass than through the cock.

However, some factors could make strategic positioning not so strategic for reducing HIV transmission risk.

  • If a poz guy is ‘strategically positioning’ himself on the bottom, but he isn’t used to it, he could be more likely to injure himself and increase the risk of HIV transmission.
  • If a negative guy is ‘strategically positioning’ himself on top, but he isn’t used to it, he could be more likely to injure his partner and increase the risk of HIV transmission. If he is uncircumcised, he may injure his foreskin, which can also increase the risk of transmission.

It’s technically less likely to be infected as the top than the bottom, although the risk isn’t eliminated. According to a study in Australia, around 1 in 5 men who recently contracted HIV were tops. In a research study published in 2007, among a sample size of 102 gay and bi men who were recently diagnosed HIV-positive, 10 of them were infected despite ‘strategic positioning’.

Giving and receiving unprotected anal sex are both considered high-risk for HIV. That means a lot of guys have become HIV-positive this way. When a condom is used, it’s low-risk for both partners.

Don’t assume another guy will bottom or top just because he is trans, masculine/feminine, or because of his ethnicity, race, age or cock size. Also, don’t make assumptions about your partner’s HIV status.

 

From the Sexual Health survey 2014 conducted at AFA Anonymous Testing Site and online, a total of 91 MSM responded. 27% of the participants have an inconsistent condom use with casual partner(s).

Figure 1. In the past 6 months, with your casual male partner(s), would you say that condoms during anal sex (whether insertive or receptive, top/bottom) were used?

Never used condoms 5 5%
Sometimes 9 9%
Most of the time 12 13%
All the time 43 45%
No casual male partner(s) 22 23%

 

With practice, most guys can have pleasurable anal sex without any pain whatsoever. Here are some tips for trying out a new position:

  • Try it on your own first. Use your finger or a sex toy.
  • Go slow. Foreplay can help. Spend some time getting turned on, lubing up your or his ass, and getting mentally prepared. If it hurts, stop.
  • If you’re on top, pay attention to his body language: tensing up, breathing, etc. This will give you cues as to whether you’re going too hard or too fast.
  • Alcohol and other drugs (like cocaine) can numb pain, so you should avoid using them when trying a new position for the first time. You might hurt yourself or your partner and not know it.
  • If you’re bottoming for the first time, try a position that’s comfortable for you. Some guys prefer to bottom from on top, lowering themselves onto him while he lies on his back, so they can have more control. Some guys prefer to lie back with their legs in the air, so they can relax more. It varies from guy to guy, and can depend on factors such as his or your body size, weight, cock size, flexibility, and sheer will.
  • When he’s entering you, try relaxing your ass just after a short tight clench. Clench, relax, repeat. It will get easier with practice!
  • If you have questions about improving your anal sex experience, you can talk to a local service organization, visit some sex shops, and do some research online at sites like MySiliconelovedoll.com.
  • Remember: not all gay men have anal sex. If it isn’t doing it for you, there are plenty of other ways to get off.

Your risk reduction strategy is up to you. But it’s important that you know the facts before you decide what kind of sex you want to have. No risk reduction strategy is as effective as consistently using condoms with lots of lube.

Remember that unprotected sex puts you at greater risk for HIV and other sexually transmitted infections. An STI can harm your health, and also put you at greater risk of getting or passing on HIV. They often don’t show symptoms, so you should get tested regularly.

Source: Thesexyouwant

Ten Men Club

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The new place for Ten Men has just opened with great reviews by the community. The place has multi levels with many rooms to explore your sexuality. For more information please visit TEN MENs CLUB website.

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Upcoming Event

Pong Pong Night : Friday April, 17

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Feeling Down and Sex

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Ever noticed that your sexual appetite and behavior change when you’re stressed? When you’re depressed? When you’re happy? Your state of mind affects how horny you get, how often you want sex, and what kind of sex you might have. It’s why some people make use of male pheromones to help get them into the right mood for what they want to do.

We live in a society where gay and bi guys are told from a young age that we are sick, immoral and even criminal. Some gay and bi guys are rejected by their family or friends. Discrimination against us is commonplace, especially those of us who are HIV-positive. It only makes sense that this would have a negative impact on our mental health.

Often, gay and bi men live with depression, anxiety and feelings of low self worth. For many guys it’s just the reality of surviving homophobia, racism, transphobia, and many other forms of discrimination. Some of us have also survived traumatic events in our lifetime, such as childhood abuse, sexual assault, or we are living with post-traumatic stress.

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Being in this state of mental health, whether temporary or more long-lasting, can make us devalue ourselves and take more risks with our health. We might also take risks in an attempt to satisfy some other need, such as:

  • self-worth and affirmation
  • having meaningful connections with others
  • feeling desired sexually and comfortable with ourselves
  • self-confidence
  • feeling at ease
  • reducing anxiety

Maybe you notice these issues when you are hooking up? Maybe you notice them after a pattern of behaviour. Maybe you don’t notice them at all. These are bigger issues that can put us at greater risk, but require more than just knowledge about HIV transmission to overcome.

TIPS

Before you go to have sex, think about how you’re feeling. Notice patterns of behaviour, or triggers that make you take risks. Acknowledge realities in your life that you might need to change, or you might need to accept.
Decide on some boundaries about what you will be comfortable with before you go ahead, and make a contract with yourself to stick to them.

Sometimes, your mood or low sexual desire may just be a one-off thing, or it may be something that happens regularly. Try and evaluate why it’s happening to you, and whether the problem lies elsewhere. You might be facing problems getting an erection when you are feeling stressed or down, and if this happens often, you might have to consult a doctor and buy vardenafil online to ensure that you can combat this issue.

If you find that your state of mind is making it difficult for you to make decisions you’re comfortable with, in the moment or later on, you can try one of these or other options that have worked for other guys:

  • Talk to someone like a trusted friend or family member about it. Just expressing our reality can help.
  • Increase your activity level through exercise, taking a class, connecting with others through a social group, or volunteering. Physical activity releases chemicals in the brain that elevate our mood. Connecting with others reduces feelings of isolation.
  • Get proper food and rest. This helps balance our mood.
  • Seek professional help from a counsellor, AIDS service organization, psychologist, etc. Sometimes it’s good to talk with a nonjudgmental and objective person who can also help connect us to other supports.

AFA MSM Programme

Daniel Le

Address: 9 Kelantan Lane #03-01
Singapore 208628

Tel: (65) 6254 0212

Fax: (65) 6256 5903

Email: daniel.le@afa.org.sg

1. If you need to talk to someone, please visit:

Oogachaga

Hotline 6226 2002

Tuesdays – Thursdays: 7pm – 10pm and,
Saturdays: 2pm – 5pm

WhatsApp 8592 0609

If you prefer to chat, you can get in touch through WhatsApp during our hotline operating hours. Please note that this is NOT an SMS service.

Click here for more info or to access e-mail counselling.

2. If you need to find community social groups please click our Supportive Networks for all the listings.

3. For anonymous testing, please visit:

  • ANONYMOUS TESTING SERVICE (ATS)

31 Kelantan Lane #1-16 S200031

Tuesdays & Wednesdays 6.30pm to 8.15pm
Saturday 1.30pm to 3.15pm

  • MOBILE TESTING SERVICE (MTS)

For operation detail, please visit our site to see where the testing van will be: http://afa.org.sg/whatwedo/support/mts/